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Long distance relationships: Keeping it hot

Nobody likes to be split up from their other half for a long period of time. Despite the sayings about absence making the heart go fonder – what about that area downstairs?

Long distance relationships Keeping it hot

That’s right, this topic is all about sex and how a long-distance relationship really can impact this. Unfortunately, the experts haven’t yet devised away to teleport, and this means there is little action between the sheets until the two of you are reunited. Whenever that might be.

Fortunately, there is hope. While nothing will beat the feeling of the two of you being back together, there are ways to “manage” this situation and at least keep the relationship hot for when things are back to normal. Let’s take a look at some of these mechanisms through the course of this page.

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Tune into the 21st century – video calls are essential

Several years ago, we wouldn’t have been able to write this. However, we’re now in an age where phone calls are soooo last century – video is all the rage.

Of course, if she happens to reside abroad with an awful Wi-Fi or data connection, you’ll have to resort to the old-fashioned method of calling.

On the most part, we’re going to assume that you do have access to video calls though. The one downside is that these tend to require a little more planning. For example, most would think nothing of initiating a phone call in the middle of a shop. If it was a video call on the other hand, that’s a little different.

The wonders of tuning into video are endless. The two of you will be more connected; you’ll both see and hear each other and engage two of your main senses in the process.

If you’re really keen on the idea, and things do seem to be going smoothly, don’t forget that you can also get quite creative in the heat of the moment. How about a naked dinner date one evening? We’ll leave the rest up to you.

On the subject of staying in the 21st century…

For some of you, this next suggest might be too much.

Sex toys are nothing new, even one of the electric variety.

Now, companies have realized that these can be combined with the latest craze in society; apps. That’s right, you can now buy sex toys which are solely controlled by apps. We’re not going to get into the technicalities over how they function, but it’s safe to say that you have complete control over her senses – and that’s enough for most guys. Remember, up until this point any sexual movements in these situations were entirely her own doing – so this is a major milestone.

Of course, the best idea is to combine the above with that video call. Some might add a bit more mystery to the situation by simply communicating by phone, or even text, but the premise is to really spice things up.

The best thing about all of this is that when the two of you are reunited, the tension and anticipation which has been built up through these devices tend to mean that the sex is better than ever before.

We’re still in an era for gifts

Following on from above, you might have been expecting another highly modern suggestion. Well, we hate to disappoint, but this time we’re going to revert back to one of the most traditional ideas out there.

This next suggestion is all about the element of surprise, specifically related to gifts. It doesn’t matter where in the world she is, if she notices a gift coming through her door she’s going to be lusting for a return.

Of course, there’s two ways that you can go with this suggestion. The first is the spicy one, where you really want to sex things up. We’ll leave little to the imagination here, although most guys prefer to opt for something along the toy or clothing category.

You can go the other way though; the element of surprise is still going to exist. In fact, in some relationships it might be a better approach. As long as it’s items that will make her know that you are thinking of her, it will go down a treat.

Turn back the clock and be teenagers on the phone again

Back when the two of you were younger, we’re going to assume that the best ways to keep things hot involved traditional text messages. Well, why not try that approach again?

Particularly now emojis have entered the picture, it’s suddenly become incredibly easy to express yourself via your mobile phone. Some of you will be happy to put things into words, while others might rely more on visual cues.

Whatever you decide, it goes without saying that you should exercise some caution. Whether it’s photos or messages, the last thing you want is this all getting into the wrong hands. There are apps to protect you against this or in the case of photos, just make sure that your face isn’t visible so nobody can identify you in the worst case scenario.

Always have something to look forward to

Finally, this is going to vary depending on the type of long-distance relationship you are involved in, but the same rules are going to apply nevertheless.

While all of the points we have mulled over are all well and good, nothing beats that in-person meeting. Therefore, always make sure the two of you know when the next time you will see each other will be. Sure, tempting messages, photos and video calls is all perfectly fine – but there comes a point where you just need to know when the real deal is occurring.

Or, if the two of you are bought into the element of surprise, just take the initiative and plan a surprise visit. This is probably one of the best ways to keep things hot, and she’ll be forever grateful when she sets eyes on you when you do make your surprise entrance.