You might be the best looking guy in town and seemingly have the chat to back this up with. Unfortunately, no matter what you try with women, a rejection swiftly follows.
In fact, you might not tick the appearance or the chat boxes either – but rejection also occurs.
Approaching women is no easy feat and as we all know, competition is rife. It means that rejection seemingly occurs more than ever before, whether this is at a bar or on an online dating platform like Tinder.
This is where our page is hopefully going to assist. We’ve detailed seven of the most common reasons why women reject you – to hopefully turn that no into a yes.
You don’t have the wow-factor
Now, we’re not going to sit here and say without ever meeting you that you don’t stand out, or don’t have the wow-factor. However, as you’ve stumbled across this article, we’re going to assume that you’re at least not making yourself stand out. The two things are very much different.
This point is best illustrated with use of a modern-day dating app, like Tinder. This platform provides women with an opportunity to cycle through umpteen male profiles.
If you put yourself into their perspective, if your profile is exactly the same as the previous ten guys she has swiped past, what do you have to offer? You have blended in with the rest of the crowd and while you might know that you are everything but the Average Joe, you’ve failed the ultimate first impression test.
Therefore, the advice is simple; be yourself. We’re in an era where more and more guys are attempting to conform to society – and this isn’t going to do you any favors in the dating game.
While we’re certainly not going to suggest that you act completely strange, if you at least be yourself, let yourself stand out from others, you should crack that first impression and at least get the ball rolling (and avoid that dreaded first rejection).
You’ve already built up a “reputation”
As you may expect, we’re not talking about a reputation in the positive sense here.
Again, we’re going to make an assumption, if you’ve stumbled across this article you’re probably on the hunt for a female. What this probably means is that you have scoured countless bars, approached countless women and performed the “usual” tactics.
Well, the woman that you next approach has probably seen all of this with her very own eyes. If you then proceed to approach her and spark a conversation, it goes without saying that you’re hardly giving her that special feeling. You’ve just done the same to countless other women and in short, she’s seen that she wasn’t first in your queue.
So, if you are looking for a girlfriend, what approach can you take? Well, rather than being too over-the-top and jumping from girl to girl in a bar, just be a normal, social person.
Don’t just concentrate all of your efforts on girls, chat to anyone – regardless of their sex. If you can be perceived as someone who is just very sociable, rather than someone who is just looking for you-know-what, you’ll have a much better chance of avoiding the big-R.
You’re too forward in your approach
This is probably the most common reason why guys fail at the first hurdle. While the movies might make pickup artists look almost fashionable, a lot of the time the girls can smell this a mile off. In other words, most guys are just far too forward in their approach – they’re seen wanting, and this is utterly unattractive in the eyes of the opposite sex.
By coming on too strong, you’re effectively lowering your value. You’re giving the girl no other option but to reject you – they feel almost worried by your “pushy” approach.
Sure, there’s a fine line when it comes to approaching and chatting to a girl, but as soon as you cross it there really is no turning back.
You’re plain boring
We tried to glam this one up a bit, and perhaps not make it quite as blunt, but it’s better to be honest. On some occasions the reason for your rejection is simple; you’ve just bored the pants off the woman in question.
This isn’t necessarily a reflection of yourself; it might just be the way you approach the woman. The basis of this reason is simple; the very start of a relationship (if we can even call it that at this stage) is meant to be the most exciting. As such, if you can’t get the excitement juices flowing right away, what are you giving the woman to look forward to?
In other words, spruce things up at the start – don’t go for the standard “hi, how are you?” lines.
You act like Mr Smooth
Sure, the movies might make the smooth guys look the part – and these same movies often show them climbing into bed with every girl they set eyes on. In real life scenarios, this rarely happens.
Firstly, as you’ve found this page, we’re going to again make an assumption. We’re going to assume that you’re not naturally smooth and this means that if you try and turn on the charm too much, it just doesn’t look natural.
In fact, it brings in an element of distrust. If you’re pulling out all of the one-liners, the cheesy chat up lines and everything else – you don’t appear “real”. Again, it brings back to the old point of you appearing like a “player”; someone who has chatted to so many girls that your next target just doesn’t feel special.
Instead, bring some personality into it and at times, maybe even a degree of awkwardness to bring back the “real-factor”.
You don’t have any game
This is probably the reason that most guys have been waiting for, as so-called “game” is talked about a lot in the dating scene.
In short, you might be a good looking guy, you might have the odd chat-up line up your sleeve, but it all just crumbles. Why? It’s because you don’t have any game. In other words, you just can’t get into the psychology of dating and allow things to progress.
The reasons for this could be aplenty. You might not be able to initiate conversation, you might not be able to playfully move to the next stage – the possibilities are endless.
Unfortunately, this is something that a lot of guys struggle with and really, practice is the only formula. You need to have rapport with your dates and while on some occasions the situation might just not be “right”, you can work on your game so you at least give dates the best possible chance of working out.
You are just not on her radar… someone else is
Unfortunately, there are occasions where it’s just not going to happen – and there’s nothing you can do about it. A lot of the time, this is because you’re not that special someone else.
If a woman wants someone else, the chances of you succeeding are slim to say the least. This other guy, whether it is an ex-boyfriend or someone she has just met the once, will linger in her head and regardless of your game, you just won’t be able to dislodge him.
It’s on these occasions that you have to accept the situation, dust yourself down and move on. Nothing will work here – and again, it’s not your fault.